Raise a Happy Girl
More Than Half of Girls Struggle to Get Parents’ Attention—Here’s Why
Heartbreaking but true: according to a new report from Girl Scouts of the USA, 64 percent of girls ages eight to ten say they have trouble getting a parent’s attention because that adult is focused on their phone.
Unfortunately, in our extremely-online society, some of this is likely unavoidable. From that work project with a looming deadline to keeping up with the family group chat or placing an order for grocery delivery, staring at screens is often a non-negotiable for today’s parents.
Still, it’s no secret that many of us spend time scrolling when we could be doing almost anything else. And while catching up on Hollywood gossip or getting a cute animal fix after a long day is no crime, there’s a chance your scroll sesh could get between you and important moments with your girl.
Here are a few tips to help you take stock of your phone habits and make sure you’re tuned in as much as possible to your family’s needs.
Talk About It
Plan time to sit down with your family and discuss the time you all spend on your phones. Do your kids ever feel overlooked or ignored when you’re on your phone? Similarly, do you ever wish they’d put down their phones and spend time catching up with you?
Be honest about your own feelings and try not to react defensively when they share their opinions and experiences. The goal is to connect more as a family, and to do that, you need to first hear each other out. You might be surprised by what you find out.
Be Realistic, Not Reactionary
It might be nice to imagine a world in which we didn’t need to be on our phones, but that’s not very realistic. Spend a day or two logging how much time you spend on your phone, then aim to cut that time down little by little over the next few weeks.
You might set timers to limit phone calls or even use special programs to temporarily block particularly addictive apps from your phone.
Prioritize Real World Adventures
One way to avoid the urge to stare at your phone is to plan activities that are even more fun than another social media dive. From a free-admission day at the museum to planting a garden or putting on a family talent show, the opportunities for bonding are limitless.
Take turns planning outings or projects to do together at home. Trying new things can keep your family so engaged that nobody will even miss their screens.
Make a Plan
Even with the best of intentions, there still may be times when your girl would like your attention and you’re unable to give it. Have her help you come up with a plan that works for both of you during these times. Then, she won’t feel overlooked and you have the chance to connect once you’re able to put down your phone.
Perhaps you agree to let her know how long your focus needs to be elsewhere while she agrees to write down her thoughts so you both can come together later and discuss.
Of course, she should know to always come to you if she’s hurt, someone is in danger, or there’s another emergency she needs your help with. Simply knowing that nothing is more important to you than her safety and well-being can make her feel seen and loved in the most important ways.
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