Being able to ask thoughtful questions of others and then actively listen to their answers is a skill that will help your girl make and keep meaningful relationships (nobody wants to chat with someone who only talks about themselves!) while understanding and respecting different points of view. It will also set her apart in the workplace, where she’ll need both technical skills and social smarts to get along with others and work as a team.
Thanksgiving is actually the perfect time to practice both asking questions and active listening. Between blood relatives visiting from out of town and good friends popping by for a slice of pie, these are the people you value most and want her to be close to throughout her life. Plus, because she probably knows most of the people gathered for the holidays, she’ll feel a bit more confident and comfortable striking up conversations with them than she might with someone new. It’s always easiest learning to do new things when you know you’re surrounded by love and support!
Before Thanksgiving, ask your girl these four questions, and then have her ask them of people at your family gathering. Younger girls, or those who tend to be shy, may prefer writing their questions on index cards so they can have a backup in case they forget at the moment!
After the leftovers are packed up and all the dishes are done, ask your girl to tell you about some of the best or most interesting answers she heard. It’s a wonderful way to reminisce and experience the warmth of the season¾and you just might learn a thing or two about your loved ones along the way!
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